Občutek
krivde in dar zastonjskosti
Vedno je lepo, kot ti nekdo nekaj
podari ali dobiš kaj zastonj, kot darilo. Ljudje zastonjskost
sprejemajo, kot dodatek k življenju, nekaj dodatnega kar ti polepša
dan. Ampak zastonjskost je veliko več od tega, le to je osnovni
pogoj pravilnega odraščanja. Redko kdo poveže zastonjskost z
odnosi, z odraščanjem. Znano je, da je starševski odnos do otroka
edini odnos, ki je sposoben biti zastonjski. Noben drug odnos ne nosi
v sebi ta dar, ki ga starši omogočajo, da sprejemajo otroka brez
katerih koli pogojev. In ta zastonjski odnos človek izredno
potrebuje. Pri opazovanju otrok, ki niso imeli zastonjske ljubezni
opazimo občutek krivde, ki prežema njihovo bivanje. Ne vzamejo
odnosa, kot darilo ampak kot neko nujo, ki jo je treba vzdrževati.
Imajo vedno občutke krivde in dolžnosti, da jim nobena stvar ni
dana zastonj.
Dar zastonjskosti je v družini nekaj
najbolj naravnega in najlepšega. Tako tudi v naravi, lahko človek
nabira razne stvari in raziskuje naravo, brez občutka krivda. Mi smo
vključeni v naravo, kot njen del, ne kot zavojevalci, ki bomo vsi
uničili. Normalno ravnaje človeka, ko se udejstvuje kot del nje in
ko živi z njo je iz vseh vidikov zastonjsko in izredno zdravo za
človeka. Ni mu treba plačevati na konvencionalen način za to kar
dobi, ampak se mora le malo potruditi. Seveda ni pravilno množično
izkoriščanje narave in njeno uničenje kot jo vidimo danes. V
normalnih mejah človek ni škodljiv do narave in se prav lepo odraža
ta občutek zastonjskosti v naravi.
Primer lahko dam, če gre človek
kampirati in med tem nabira smrekove vršičke, razne gobe in še
kakšno gozdno sadje, ne bo škodoval naravi in bo občutil tisto
zastonjskost.
-Denis Ališič
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Feeling
guilty and a gift of free realtionship
It's always nice when someone gives
you something or you get something for free, like a gift. People
accept freeness, as an addition to life, something extra that
beautifies your day. But freeness is much more than this, because
this is the basic condition of proper growing up. Rarely, someone
connects freeness with relationships, with growing up. It is
well-known that parental attitude towards a child is the only
relationship that can be free. There is no other relationship that
carries this gift that parents allow to receive a child without any
conditions. And this free-of-charge relationship is what everyone
needs. When watching children who did not have free love, we see a
sense of guilt that permeates their lives. They do not take the
relationship as a gift but as something that need to be done, that
needs to be maintained. They always have feelings of guilt and duty,
that nothing is given to them for free.
The gift of free relationship in the
family is some of the most natural and beautiful. So in nature, man
can gather things and explore nature without feeling guilty. We are
involved in nature, as part of it, not as savages, which destroy
everything. The normal behavior of a person, when engaged as part of
it and when living with it, is from all points of view free and
extremely healthy for humans. He does not have to pay in a
conventional way for what he gets, but he has to do little to do it.
Of course, it is not correct to massively exploit nature and destroy
it as we see it today. At normal limits, man is not harmful to
nature, and this beautifully reflects this feeling of free nature in
nature.
I can give an example if a person is
camping and gather spruce tops, various mushrooms and other forest
fruits, will not hurt nature and will feel that freeness.
-Denis Ališič
